Ruqyah
No One Ever Kicks the Stove
The heat of the stove, the splash of oil, the cut of a knife — you put up with it all with a smile. From there the Shaykh said: where there is love, hardship does not feel like hardship.
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The heat of the stove, the splash of oil, the cut of a knife — you put up with it all with a smile. From there the Shaykh said: where there is love, hardship does not feel like hardship.
The Scene the Shaykh Described
A sister said, weeping — her husband is ill, with a spiritual problem. He doesn't even look at her, and he is harsh with her over every little thing.
The Shaykh reminded her of a scene. If her husband is five minutes late coming home with the car, a fire flares up inside her — Where have you been all this time?
Yet every day, for hours on end, in the kitchen — the heat of the stove, the splash of oil, the cut of the knife, the sting of onions, a backache from standing.
When someone offers a little praise, she says, "Tomorrow I'll cook even better." She never kicks the stove and curses at it.
The Shaykh's Point — Balance
Where there is love, hardship does not feel like hardship. Shaytan makes the small blows from an ill spouse look huge.
This is not to justify his harshness — that matter is separate and is his to answer for. This is about protecting your heart: so that every harsh word does not eat away at the very foundation.
The Evidence — If You Dislike One Trait
لَا يَفْرَكْ مُؤْمِنٌ مُؤْمِنَةً، إِنْ كَرِهَ مِنْهَا خُلُقًا رَضِيَ مِنْهَا آخَرَ
A believing man should not hate a believing woman; if he dislikes one trait in her, he will be pleased with another. (Sahih Muslim 1469)
Although the hadith speaks to men, the principle applies in both directions — if you dislike one side, look at the other side. In days of illness, this very looking is what saves a home.
What to Do Today
- With every harsh word, tell yourself — this is not him, this is his illness.
- At least once a day, make dua for yourself too — you are tired as well.
- Do not neglect your own meals, sleep and a little rest.
- Make dua for your husband in private — not complaints in front of him.
Source: Based on a talk by Shaykh Khalid bin Ibrahim Al-Habashi (ruqyah specialist)
Translation and compilation: Raqi Faisal Ahmed Sabit — Al Qur'an Ruqyah Healing Center
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