بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمٰنِ الرَّحِيمِ
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Ruqyah Protocol
Obstacles to Marriage
Ruqyah for Removing a Stalled Marriage and the Reluctance of Suitors
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Raqi Faisal Ahmed Sabit
Al Quranic Ruqyah Healing Center
Introduction — who this protocol is for
Obstacles to marriage refers to a situation in which, despite having the age and the qualifications, no good proposal comes for years on end, or a proposal does come but falls through at the last moment for no clear reason, again and again. Here too, balance is essential: not every delay or broken engagement is caused by an obstacle; often it is simply a test from the qadar. However, if you notice signs of being stuck in the same pattern again and again, continue this protocol consistently.
Signs for which this protocol may help
- Marriage proposals come again and again, yet fall through at the last moment for no reason
- No good proposal coming for a long time despite having the age and the qualifications
- Noticing sudden reluctance or distancing behavior from the groom's or bride's side
- Unnecessary hesitation, disagreement or delay arising in the family over the marriage
- Feeling mental restlessness and anxiety about your own marriage being stalled
Important note: Most of the signs above can also have ordinary physical or psychological causes. So first get the necessary medical tests and treatment. Ruqyah runs alongside medical treatment, not as a replacement for it. Do not conclude with certainty that someone is affected by sihr or jinn just because a sign matches.
Translation of the meanings of the Qur'an: Saheeh International (via quran.com).
Opening duas
Make wudu and sit facing the qiblah. Make the intention: through the Word of Allah, I am asking Allah alone for healing.
بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الَّذِي لَا يَضُرُّ مَعَ اسْمِهِ شَيْءٌ فِي الْأَرْضِ وَلَا فِي السَّمَاءِ وَهُوَ السَّمِيعُ الْعَلِيمُ
I begin in the name of Allah, with whose name nothing in the heavens or on the earth can cause harm; He is the All-Hearing, the All-Knowing.
Recite: 3 times
Nothing can cause sudden harm to the one who recites this dua in the morning and evening. (Tirmidhi 3388)
بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمٰنِ الرَّحِيمِ
In the name of Allāh, the Entirely Merciful, the Especially Merciful.
Meaning: Surah Al-Faatiha 1:1, Saheeh International.
Recite: 19 times
Before starting the ruqyah, settle your focus and your intention, then recite.
أَعُوذُ بِكَلِمَاتِ اللَّهِ التَّامَّاتِ مِنْ شَرِّ مَا خَلَقَ
I seek refuge in the perfect Words of Allah from the evil of all that He has created.
Recite: 3 times
(Muslim 2708)
Verses for removing obstacles to marriage and for gaining a good life partner
Recite each verse (ayah) attentively, understanding its meaning. Then follow it with the dua in your own language.
وَلَا جُنَاحَ عَلَيْكُمْ فِيمَا عَرَّضْتُم بِهِۦ مِنْ خِطْبَةِ النِّسَاءِ أَوْ أَكْنَنتُمْ فِى أَنفُسِكُمْ ۚ عَلِمَ اللَّهُ أَنَّكُمْ سَتَذْكُرُونَهُنَّ وَلٰكِن لَّا تُوَاعِدُوهُنَّ سِرًّا إِلَّا أَن تَقُولُوا قَوْلًا مَّعْرُوفًا ۚ وَلَا تَعْزِمُوا عُقْدَةَ النِّكَاحِ حَتَّىٰ يَبْلُغَ الْكِتٰبُ أَجَلَهُۥ ۚ وَاعْلَمُوا أَنَّ اللَّهَ يَعْلَمُ مَا فِى أَنفُسِكُمْ فَاحْذَرُوهُ ۚ وَاعْلَمُوا أَنَّ اللَّهَ غَفُورٌ حَلِيمٌ ۲۳۵
There is no blame upon you for that to which you [indirectly] allude concerning a proposal to women or for what you conceal within yourselves. Allāh knows that you will have them in mind. But do not promise them secretly except for saying a proper saying. And do not determine to undertake a marriage contract until the decreed period reaches its end. And know that Allāh knows what is within yourselves, so beware of Him. And know that Allāh is Forgiving and Forbearing.
Recite: 3 times
Intention: With the intention that the bond of marriage be completed at the right time and in the right way
وَالَّذِينَ يَقُولُونَ رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوٰجِنَا وَذُرِّيّٰتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامًا ۷۴
And those who say, "Our Lord, grant us from among our wives and offspring comfort to our eyes and make us a leader [i.e., example] for the righteous."
Recite: 3 times
Intention: As a dua for a good life partner and happiness in married life
وَخَلَقْنٰكُمْ أَزْوٰجًا ۸
And We created you in pairs.
Recite: 3 times
Intention: Remembering this truth that Allah created human beings in pairs, and keeping hope that your own partner will be brought to you
وَمِنْ ءَايٰتِهِۦ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوٰجًا لِّتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُم مَّوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً ۚ إِنَّ فِى ذٰلِكَ لَءَايٰتٍ لِّقَوْمٍ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ ۲۱
And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought.
Recite: 3 times
Intention: A dua for opening the path to marriage, remembering the promise of placing love and mercy between husband and wife
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Surah Adh-Dhaariyat 51:49
وَمِن كُلِّ شَىْءٍ خَلَقْنَا زَوْجَيْنِ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَذَكَّرُونَ ۴۹
And of all things We created two mates [i.e., counterparts]; perhaps you will remember.
Recite: 3 times
Intention: A heartfelt plea to bring you together with your partner, remembering the sunnah of creating everything in pairs
وَمَا تَشَاءُونَ إِلَّا أَن يَشَاءَ اللَّهُ رَبُّ الْعٰلَمِينَ ۲۹
And you do not will except that Allāh wills - Lord of the worlds.
Recite: 3 times
Intention: A request to open the path to marriage, placing complete tawakkul in Allah's will
وَإِذَا النُّفُوسُ زُوِّجَتْ ۷
And when the souls are paired
Recite: 3 times
Intention: A dua to be united with your partner in this world too, remembering that souls will be paired together on the Day of Resurrection
Special duas — Obstacles to Marriage
These duas are arranged specifically for this problem. Recite them after you finish the verses.
اللَّهُمَّ احْرِقْ كُلَّ عُقْدَةٍ عَلَى زَوَاجِي
O Allah! Burn away every obstacle in my marriage.
Recite: 7 times
بِسْمِ اللَّهِ يُبْطَلُ كُلُّ تَسَلُّطٍ عَلَى زَوَاجِي
In the name of Allah, all control over my marriage is hereby nullified.
Recite: 7 times
اللَّهُمَّ بِقُوَّتِكَ وَقُدْرَتِكَ فُكَّ كُلَّ عُقْدَةٍ عُقِدَتْ عَلَى زَوَاجِي
O Allah! By Your power and might, undo every knot tied upon my marriage.
Recite: 7 times
بِسْمِ اللَّهِ تُحَلُّ كُلُّ عُقْدَةٍ عَلَى النِّكَاحِ. بِسْمِ اللَّهِ تُحَلُّ عُقَدُ نُفُورِ الْخُطَّابِ. بِسْمِ اللَّهِ تُحَلُّ كُلُّ عُقْدَةٍ عَلَى تَعْطِيلِ الزَّوَاجِ. اللَّهُمَّ فُكَّ كُلَّ عُقْدَةٍ تَمْنَعُ الزَّوَاجَ.
In the name of Allah, may all the knots (obstacles) upon marriage be undone. In the name of Allah, may the knots of reluctance and distancing of those who propose marriage be undone. In the name of Allah, may all the knots of marriage being stalled be undone. O Allah! Undo all the knots that create obstacles to marriage.
Recite: 3 times
This is not a verse of the Qur'an but a dua composed by the raqi; it has been transcribed exactly as it was printed in the source.
Closing surahs and duas
End every session this way. At the end, blow into water and drink it.
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Surah Al-Ikhlaas 112:1-4
بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمٰنِ الرَّحِيمِ قُلْ هُوَ اللَّهُ أَحَدٌ ۱ اللَّهُ الصَّمَدُ ۲ لَمْ يَلِدْ وَلَمْ يُولَدْ ۳ وَلَمْ يَكُن لَّهُۥ كُفُوًا أَحَدٌ ۴
Say, "He is Allāh, [who is] One, Allāh, the Eternal Refuge. He neither begets nor is born, Nor is there to Him any equivalent."
Recite: 3 times
Intention: Strengthening the heart by declaring tawhid
بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمٰنِ الرَّحِيمِ قُلْ أَعُوذُ بِرَبِّ الْفَلَقِ ۱ مِن شَرِّ مَا خَلَقَ ۲ وَمِن شَرِّ غَاسِقٍ إِذَا وَقَبَ ۳ وَمِن شَرِّ النَّفّٰثٰتِ فِى الْعُقَدِ ۴ وَمِن شَرِّ حَاسِدٍ إِذَا حَسَدَ ۵
Say, "I seek refuge in the Lord of daybreak From the evil of that which He created And from the evil of darkness when it settles And from the evil of the blowers in knots And from the evil of an envier when he envies."
Recite: 7 times
Intention: Refuge from magic, hasad (envy) and the evil of the night
بِسْمِ اللَّهِ الرَّحْمٰنِ الرَّحِيمِ قُلْ أَعُوذُ بِرَبِّ النَّاسِ ۱ مَلِكِ النَّاسِ ۲ إِلٰهِ النَّاسِ ۳ مِن شَرِّ الْوَسْوَاسِ الْخَنَّاسِ ۴ الَّذِى يُوَسْوِسُ فِى صُدُورِ النَّاسِ ۵ مِنَ الْجِنَّةِ وَالنَّاسِ ۶
Say, "I seek refuge in the Lord of mankind, The Sovereign of mankind, The God of mankind, From the evil of the retreating whisperer - Who whispers [evil] into the breasts of mankind - From among the jinn and mankind".
Recite: 7 times
Intention: Refuge from the waswasa (whispers) of mankind and jinn
أُعِيذُكَ بِكَلِمَاتِ اللَّهِ التَّامَّةِ مِنْ كُلِّ شَيْطَانٍ وَهَامَّةٍ وَمِنْ كُلِّ عَيْنٍ لَامَّةٍ
I entrust you to the protection of the perfect Words of Allah from every Shaytan, every venomous creature and every harmful evil eye.
Recite: 3 times
The Prophet ﷺ used to recite this dua over Hasan and Husain (may Allah be pleased with them). (Bukhari 3371)
بِسْمِ اللَّهِ أَرْقِيكَ مِنْ كُلِّ شَيْءٍ يُؤْذِيكَ مِنْ شَرِّ كُلِّ نَفْسٍ أَوْ عَيْنِ حَاسِدٍ اللَّهُ يَشْفِيكَ بِسْمِ اللَّهِ أَرْقِيكَ
In the name of Allah I perform ruqyah over you, from everything that harms you, from the evil of every soul and of the envier's eye. May Allah heal you. In the name of Allah I perform ruqyah over you.
Recite: 3 times
Jibril (peace be upon him) performed ruqyah over the Prophet ﷺ in this way. (Muslim 2186)
اللَّهُمَّ رَبَّ النَّاسِ أَذْهِبِ الْبَأْسَ اشْفِ أَنْتَ الشَّافِي لَا شِفَاءَ إِلَّا شِفَاؤُكَ شِفَاءً لَا يُغَادِرُ سَقَمًا
O Allah, Lord of mankind! Remove the hardship and grant healing. You are the Healer; there is no healing except Your healing — a healing that leaves no illness behind.
Recite: 7 times
(Bukhari 5743)
📌 Self-ruqyah guideline
Consistency is the key. A little every day, but regularly.
Method — step by step
- Make wudu, then sit somewhere quiet facing the qiblah. Keep your phone away.
- Make the intention: I am asking Allah for healing through the Words of Allah; the Words have no power of their own — the power belongs to Allah.
- Recite the opening duas (Chapter 1).
- Then recite the verses (ayahs) in order. While reciting, blow lightly into both palms and pass your hands over the affected area.
- Recite each verse as many times as stated in the instruction box below it — there is no need to do more or less.
- In between, make dua wholeheartedly in your own language for 15 minutes. If tears come, do not hold them back.
- At the end, recite the closing surahs and duas, then blow lightly into the water.
- Continue every day for at least 40 days. If you miss some days, do not lose heart — simply start again.
Daily schedule
| Morning | After Fajr — verse recitation, 15 minutes |
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| Evening | After Maghrib — verse recitation, 15 minutes |
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| Night | Before sleeping — closing surahs and duas, drink recited-over water |
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| Weekly | One ruqyah bath a week |
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Your own dua in your own language (15 minutes)
During or after the recitation of the verses, ask Allah in your own language. Below is a sample — you do not have to read exactly this; say it in your own words.
O Allah, remove all the obstacles, all the reluctance and distance that have arisen on the path of my marriage. Grant me a good, devout life partner, and place love and mercy between us.
Where to massage the recited-over oil
Focus for Obstacles to Marriage: On the head, neck and chest
Supplements and weekly practices
| Recited-over water | Recite the ruqyah verses over a bottle of water and blow into it. Drink it 3 times a day: in the morning on an empty stomach, at midday, and at night before sleeping. |
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| Recited-over honey | Blow into pure honey and take one spoonful every morning. It is good to recite verse 69 of Surah An-Nahl and then blow into it. |
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| Recited-over olive oil | Recite the verses over olive oil, blow into it, and massage it into the affected area. It is best done at night before sleeping. |
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| Black seed (nigella) | Every morning, take 7 black seeds with recited-over honey. The Prophet ﷺ said that black seed contains a cure for every disease except death. (Bukhari 5688) |
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| Ruqyah bath | Recite the verses over a bucket of water and blow into it. You may also mix in seven crushed jujube leaves. Pour the water over yourself from the head down and bathe, once a week. |
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| Spraying the home | Put recited-over water in a spray bottle and spray it in the corners of the house, on the doors and windows, and under the bed. |
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Daily practices (amal)
Alongside ruqyah, it is these practices that give long-term protection.
| After Fajr | Surah Yasin 1 time |
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| Morning and evening | The morning and evening adhkar from Hisnul Muslim, regularly |
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| After Asr | Surah Al-Waqi'ah 1 time |
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| At night | Surah Qaf 3 times, Surah Al-Mulk 1 time |
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| Before sleeping | Ayat al-Kursi 1 time, the last two verses of Surah Al-Baqarah, and the three Quls 3 times each. Blow into your hands and wipe them over your whole body. |
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| Every day | Give sadaqah as much as you can, every day, even if only a little. Sadaqah wards off calamity. |
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| Every day | The obligatory salah in congregation, istighfar 100 times, salawat upon the Prophet 100 times |
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Ruqyah is a Shariah-based method of treatment; it is not a substitute for necessary medical treatment.